Because ultimately, the way forward for feminism is both to reject the notion of a uniform vision or experience and to celebrate the range and multitude of voices therein. Just as important, the focus on young women and on delay rather than refusal means there is no steady critique here of marriage altogether as a social and state-incentivized system.
This book is chock full of stories of how single women changed history, providing leadership in settlement houses, in nursing, and in antislavery movements.
With a body of vigorous singles studies scholarship at her fingertips, Traister might have taken her analysis a few steps further and asked the critical question: I think the overall strength of the book makes the few lapses even more significant. All the Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister. Cott This book is about youth as much as it is about gender or singleness.
Inshe coined the word singlism, in an article she published in Psychological Inquiry. If such a tradition had been longstanding, I think Traister might have made an even more powerful case for single women. Because Traister so resolutely stands up for single women in most passages throughout the book, she has credibility.
Same-sex spouses, like their different-sex counterparts, are more solvent than unmarried pairs. The result, Spinstera very personal blend of memoir, biography, reporting, and cultural history that charts my own coming into adulthood at a time when public conversation around singledom was at a low and shows the parallels between single women at the turn of the nineteenth century and the turn of the twentieth, came out last year.
Really, it tells us about young not-yet-married women. In the medical system, they are cared for more attentively and their illnesses are treated more aggressively. This produces a messy result: I love books that are set in the south, for some reason, and because this story is set in the Carolina Lowcountry, and was supposed to be centered around three strong southern ladies who are closing in on middle age, I was very excited to get started on this one.
This is not an invitation for inclusion by a white feminist writer—it is the centering of an inherently inclusive narrative. As I consider the responses, I am reminded of what I hope is a strength but may also be a shortcoming of All the Single Ladies: Because, as both DePaulo and Bolick write here, there has been so much published about single female life over the years—in so many fields, in so many styles, drawing on so many differing studies and measures—I often felt myself pulled between robust competing views.
Keenly sensitive to race and class inequities in access to marriage, Traister also recognizes that single ladies of all backgrounds still suffer steep social, economic, and cultural handicaps.
I would argue that this is due in large part to the presumption that institutionalized feminism belongs to white women, and that the inclusion of other races and ethnicities is by invitation or as a favor, rather than a shared narrative.
To ignore the depth and complexities of these networks is to limit the full range of our emotional experiences. People who approach their scholarship from a singles perspective have a different way of seeing the world, a different set of questions to pose, and a fresh way of analyzing and understanding the relevant issues.
She lives in New York with her family.
Convincingly, she attributes her good fortune to her long years of independence: Even without children, wifehood deprived women of citizenship rights.
Or better still, she could have added a comparable anecdote about a married woman who thought she could be percent happy as a married person but then had some quirky experience that left her in tears, wishing she were single. It is telling that Ann, the single person in need, gets abandoned in favor of the other friend who is getting married.
Traister knows about the hundreds of federal laws that benefit and protect only those who are legally married; she mentions them elsewhere. Unlike married women such as the author, we single ladies are truly alone.
In several passages in the chapter on women on their own, Traister seems to undervalue friends in ways that would be inconsistent with a strong singles perspective. Over lunch at a seafood restaurant, she discussed how the cultural fixation on the couple blinds us to the full web of relationships that sustain us on a daily basis.All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation Kate Bolick.
out of 5 stars Paperback. $ Sociable: A Novel [All The Single Ladies] has the potential to become a seminal text on female identity in the West Traister expertly paints a modern portrait of American life and how we got here, /5(). On the cover of the November issue of the Atlantic is the question, “What, me marry?” and Kate Bolick’s story is titled, "All the single ladies." It has already been featured in two.
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Now, in this month's lengthy Atlantic cover story, titled "All the Single Ladies," writer Kate Bolick says that, at age 39, she's perfectly happy.
Mar 06, · A mix of interviews and historical analysis, “All the Single Ladies” is a well-researched, deeply informative examination of women’s bids for independence, spanning centuries. In every major city, people with and without children are quietly cobbling together more flexible schedules.
We can all learn from their success. Kate Bolick.Download